It’s been 5 years now,
You never told me what bugs you,
You were an introverted type of person, a handful could understand you,
And could interpret your pain,
You were quiet, struggling with your problems,
You never shed a tear,
Always tried to escape emotional frames,
You were always there whenever someone was in a problem,
You solved everything that you came across,
But when it came to you, you always hid everything,
The pain, the struggle, and not let a tear out of your eyes,
They call you the perfectionist, but are you the one?
Aren’t perfectionist humans with emotions?
It’s been a long time, We still remember you in our prayers!
Let me put this concept in simple words,
You struggle every day with your work like every other person does, but you have a corner for yourself, it might be a hobby or spending time with friends which makes you forget the tough times. This is not so easy but you, however, try to overcome your stress by spending time with loved ones or pursuing your hobby.
“Depression” and “Loneliness” on a long run are devastating, a person is more than dead in these situations. It’s something more painful than death. Let’s understand why a “corner” is necessary for an individual and what happens if he has only “a corner” left in his/her life.
The root cause is “Overthinking”. Let me put this in a simple story, Rachael and Joseph are classmates. They both got into a relationship. And, the way most relationships end, unfortunately, this relationship too had an end. Rachael wasn’t able to “move on” and used to play the time they had spent together in a loop. This imprisoned her in a hypothetical scene where she was with him. Whereas Joseph moved on, he knew that “Life” is an experiment and humans are mere lab rats. Rachael’s thought process got altered, she now used to see the negative side of everything and used to be depressed because of the thoughts that were running in a loop. Joseph initiated a new schedule and kept himself happy.
So, what do you understand by the above story?
Running the same thought which had a negative outcome is poisonous, not just for you, but also for the people around you. You spread this “negativity” in yourself which drastically declines your self-confidence. “Depression” and “Loneliness” are quite common, and we have no one to blame except ourselves.
i) Try to contact your loved ones (your family member, the best friend etc).
ii) Go out and attend meetups, any social interaction will reduce the toxicity that’s residing in you.
iii) Try to recollect memories and your Hobbies. Spend time in enhancing your skills or learn a new skill. We, humans, are gifted with an ability to learn. The way we learn alphabets, which is totally a unique and unrelatable concept for an infant. But he still does learn and communicates.
Life is a just like a movie, there are many characters in your life, you may face villains or the bad guys, you will get good guys on your side too. But at the very end of every movie, you are gonna see the hero/yourself win over them.
Keep your spirits and your head high!
P.S: This blog deals with “Mental Health” which is considered a “Taboo” at many places and people hesitate to approach a qualified doctor for the same. Mental health is “No Joke”. As always, my inbox/contact page is always open for discussion if you’re suffering from any problem. I might not be a leading Doctor, but I can be a person whom you can pour your heart out, Let me share your sufferings! However, medical attention is a must.